Friendship dating transition
We laughed, we cried, and we fought – just like friends, right?No matter how close a manager may feel to an employee, it should never be confused with a real “friendship”.According to Merriam-Webster, a friend is “one attached to another through affection or esteem; one that is not hostile, a favored companion”.Hmmm, I’ve been a manager for a long time, and that would be how I would describe A LOT of my employees.I’ve had some of my female readers complain that the term neediness makes it sound like I’m framing women as weak, fragile, insecure creatures that just cling to men (and stress them out). I think women bring a tremendous strength and power to the table in relationships…when they have access to it and are free of their own fears. Those fears are greater now more than ever really since there’s an entire industry devoted to making sure men and women are wrought with insecurities so they buy products (sowing in and agitating tiny insecurities is the bread and butter of the marketing world).
And it’s not surprising given the very unrealistic portrayals of love in movies, TV, and music.“Well gee, a friend would never do that, or should do that, or should tell me everything, etc…”5.